Stop! look and listen…
Wednesday, July 25th, 2007We all want to believe that we have our professional act together and we are constantly putting up with others who for one reason or another cannot: send an email; meet a deadline to save themselves; or go the extra distance to actually complete a task that was assigned to them two weeks ago! I am with you 100 percent. Before you pick up a blunt object let’s take a deep breath and exhale gently. Most of us who are in the Design and Build industry (including myself) tend to be super control freaks. It made sound harsh, maybe even a tad politically incorrect, but the reality is that we have to work and live with people who either get “it” or don’t get “it”! A moment’s introspection may help us see if we are actually getting ‘it’ or not getting ‘it’ ourselves. Take a moment to re-examine what is really going on with the people you live and work with. Instructions: Step 1: Print this page. Step 2: Read each question out loud in front of a mirror (make sure no one can hear you). Step 3: Look at yourself in the mirror. Step 4: While still looking at yourself in the mirror answer each question from 1-10. Step 5: After dismissing your first answer ask the same question again. Step 6: Give yourself time to reflect and then answer the question in complete honesty. Have fun!
How do I talk to others?
- Do I talk in short sentences? Yes No
- Do I talk in loud short sentences? Yes No
- Do I talk softly in short sentences? Yes No
- Are you talking to people or with people? Yes No
- Are you seeking to understand or to be understood? Yes No
- Do you say what you can do, and do what you say? Yes No
- Do you say one thing and do another? Yes No
- Do you talk in long sentences? Yes No
- Do you turn people off? Yes No
- Would you listen to a recording of yourself
talking at your work place? Yes No
When you have a moment to reflect on these questions let me know if this was worth doing or not. Every month I will post 10 questions to help business people take a look at themselves and how it affects others around them. The goal of these exercises is to get the people who you work and live with a better line of communication in order to minimize some of the trauma we live with daily. If you are looking for the real truth, give this list to someone who knows you well enough to tell you the real deal.
Don’t take yourself too seriously!
